Friday, 19 July 2024

THE WEDDING AND THE FINE PRINT

 In my 74 years I have not seen, or even heard of, a more tasteless, egotistical or pretentious wedding than the recent, 24X7 televised extravaganza of the Ambanis. It is not just about its cost, which is estimated to be anything between Rupees 1500 crores to 5000 crores, not including the cost to the government in facilitating a private function as if it was a state event. The ugliness, the perversity and its real portent lie elsewhere.

It lies in the in-your-face manner in which this money was expended, at a time when the average Indian has never been worse off economically, when inequality and unemployment have reached record heights, when 67% of the GST is paid by 50% of its poorest citizens, when the top 1% control 40% of the country's wealth, when 800 million people have to be provided free/subsidized foodgrains to survive. At a time like this it needs a specially insensitive and supremely contemptuous mindset to distribute invitation cards which cost lakhs of rupees each, to charter 100 private jets to bring in  guests from all over the globe, to take 500 guests on a pre-wedding cruise, to flaunt clothes and necklaces that are worth more than the GDP of many countries, to pay Rs. 80 crores (reportedly) to someone who is practically unknown in India, to dish out gifts that reportedly cost more than rupees one crore each. Marie Antoinette at least offered cake to the citizens when there was no bread, her Indian avatars offer only a soap-box serial (spread over eight months), every event of what should be a private affair playing out in full public glare. It is this which offends the sensibilities, not just the scale of expenditure. (Incidentally, I find something sick and diseased with this obsession for things foreign in our super rich, this compulsion to flaunt white skinned invitees, whether they be pop-stars, ex-Prime Ministers or corporate honchos. It's as if our billionaires have not fully "arrived" until they can rub shoulders with these imported types, even if the latter have to be paid for condescending to come. Why, for example, a Rihanna or a Justin Beiber when our country has such a rich galaxy of artistes and unparalleled cultural variety  of our own? )

Let us be clear about one thing: this wasn't just a wedding- it was a powerful political statement. It appears to me that Mr. Ambani was making two statements here through the glitz, the hype and the greenbacks. One, that no one should be in any doubt about his political clout and preeminence. (Incidentally, this vindicates what Rahul Gandhi has been saying all along about who the real powers behind the throne are). And Mr. Ambani's confidence is certainly justified- barring the South and the Left, every politician of any note- including those from the India Alliance and even the Congress itself - were in obsequious attendance, as were the Shankarcharyas who had boycotted the Ram Mandir inauguration, an indication that the Ambani empire holds sway over both the temporal and the spiritual! And the Prime Minister was there too, making contrite amends for accusing his host of sending tempo loads of black money to the Congress during the elections.                                                                                                                                                The second statement by Asia's richest man is that he doesn't give a tinker's curse for public opinion or his fellow Indians, that other 99% who have funded his riches, consumed his products and have made him what he is. He had demonstrated as much earlier when he built his 27 storey, Rs. 3000 crore mansion overlooking the slums of these Indians: the mansion is the symbolic finger he is showing them. And why should he bother, anyway?- he controls most of the media, the many anchors and editors had their snouts firmly in the multi-cuisine troughs he had prepared for them, and their studios obligingly read from the script prepared by them.                                                                                                                                                              But beneath this sickening display of naked power and wealth one can detect the parvenu type aspiration of the nouveau riche,  the real colonial mindset of the Indian uber rich: a desperate, almost paranoiac desire to be "accepted" by the glitterati and power brokers of the West, to be one of them, to rub shoulders with them. This is a trait Mr. Ambani shares with his political mentor: the  mentor does it by bear hugs and dropping of first names, our aspiring Midases do it by basking in the company of these invitees (what P. Sainath calls "Nero's guests"), even if it means your star performer performing with his jockeys showing and a Kim Kardashian doing a "gajni" walk next to Mamata Bannerjee plodding along in hawai chappals! It is THIS colonial mindset which is the bane of a progressing India,  which Mr. Modi should be working to eradicate, rather than on renaming Rajpath or revising the IPC and CrPC or redesigning the army's uniforms. But a doctor can hardly be expected to cure a patient if he has the same disease himself, can he? 

For me, the only ones who come out of this tamasha smelling good are the Gandhis, not one of whom attended the wedding functions, in spite of being invited personally. The absence of Rahul Gandhi particularly is not a sulking refusal or  arrogant behaviour; as Valsan Thampu has explained in a video, it is an affirmative action which demonstrates moral uprightness and political consistency. For this was not just a wedding, it was a political statement, a reiteration of the power and wealth of someone who controls the levers of government, and wanted it to be known not just in India but globally. It had to be answered in kind, which is what Rahul Gandhi has done. He has shown that, notwithstanding the capitulation by his peers in the Opposition camp, he at least has the courage and commitment to practise what he preaches- that this country is being handed over to the oligarchs, that the national wealth being cornered by the rich 10% needs to be equitably shared with the other 90% of the citizens of the country, that the nexus between politics and Big Capital has to be broken for the country to progress and to remain a true democracy. To that extent he has been true to his new persona and has done us proud.

Sadly, no other leader of the opposition alliance has shown a similar fortitude or moral integrity: they have all succumbed to the lure of power and wealth and performed the role of "baratis" (if not "labhartis") in full public glare. They could have wished Mr. Ambani personally and in private in the best Indian traditions, without associating themselves publicly with this circus. Instead, their cringing behaviour has exposed the fragility and lack of any genuine, value based adhesive to the India Alliance. It further shows the difficulty of formulating any Common Minimum Programme for the Alliance. This is a warning flag for Rahul Gandhi and one hopes he has taken note of this. For all their talk of socialist principles, concern for the common man, tears for the vulnerable sections- all this is just a facade, they are perfectly comfortable with the purveyors of vulgar affluence and riches; they are self serving opportunists whose only goal is to attain power. They will sup with the devil, if necessary, to attain this object. If they are opposing Mr. Modi it is not because they do not approve of his values and principles (or the lack of them), it is because they would rather be sitting on his throne. They cannot be trusted to stay the race and the Congress will, sooner or later, have to find a way reduce its dependence on them.

Many years ago, when I was a probationer on district training in Mandi (unfortunately, Kangana Ranaut was not around then), I used to go to the district Club almost every evening for a drink or a game of bridge. My Deputy Commissioner, the late CD Parsheera, was the President of the club but NEVER visited it. One day I asked him the reason for his staying away. I still remember his words, which have guided me throughout my career: " Avay, our job demands that we say NO more often than we say YES. And remember this- it's very difficult to say "no" to a person with whom you have had a drink the previous evening."

Do you now see the fine print in this wedding?

43 comments:

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    1. Avay please dig a little deeper to see how Dhirubhai and the Ambani Empire was created.

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  2. Brilliant! I agree to every word said here! It is truly nauseating to see everyone from the PM down talking ill of anything Western, as it has "supposedly" corrupted our culture and the wannabe supporters, including the "godi media" nodding in robotic agreement, BUT it is to these very same foreigners, "robbers of our culture" that these vultures head for in starry eyed hope of being "seen" & " known"! HOW DISGUSTING!

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  3. Well said. You have written what many of us feeling and yet happy to spend endless time scrolling through the pictures! I refuse to do that. Absolutely ghastly

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    1. Neither the bogger nor the replies appear to be above politics. Right from the time India gained Independence, most of the rich have splashed their wealth for weddings. Worst is when average or below average spend many times more than their actual financial standing. Even Congress was getting tons of money all throughout when they were in power since Independence.

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    2. Please someone, ask Powan to correct his comment/grammar to 'blogger'
      And do forgive him, cause he know not what he say(s)

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  4. This is spot on. We can only hope that at one point of time, the pretenders would be vanquished. And that by non-violent means. Otherwise, we may be in for a civil war.

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  5. Seeing members of the India alliance genuflecting at this tamasha did look jarring & I'm really glad you brought that out so incisively. Full Mark's to the Gandhi family. It takes several generations to acquire class. There is no short cut or piggy backing to it. And yes money can't buy it. Your denunciation is hard hitting & its bullseye!!!

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    1. Neither the bogger nor the replies appear to be above politics. Right from the time India gained Independence, most of the rich have splashed their wealth for weddings. Worst is when average or below average spend many times more than their actual financial standing. Even Congress was getting tons of money all throughout when they were in power since Independence. Class without morals is like 'Vijay Mallya'

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  6. You have articulated what many of us felt very well. The RK Laxman cartoon also puts it in perspective

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  7. Oh, please don't make a devta out of the devil that Rahul Gandhi is. Well, this article clearly smacks of authors bias towards Gandhi family. Why this bias? Why Gandhid didn't go? It's their wish. Considering, RaGa is trying to become a serious politician, buoyed by 99/543 win in LS polls, he has to maintain that facade. They are corrupt to the core and would sell the country for their selfish motives. So please, spare us from this eulogy. It's sickening. The rest of part about Ambanis, and Modi...I tend to agree, even though I feel renaming rajpath and others colonial names, and revamping IPC are vital. C.'mon, being an IAS the author should know better than this.

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    1. Agree. What RG did?. Went to a public place to eat pizza so he can be caught on camera and shared by people. And when it's work time he goes for his secret meetings with Chinese or other external people..or India bashing. . Which now everyone knows
      Faultlines which he tried to exploit...his family was directly or indirectly cause of many of these faultlines.. has blatant disrespect of legal process and now he is acting like he is all things constitutional 😡.definitely no more a dimwit as he was projected by BJP..but defini3tly has tendencies of aterrorist ?

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    2. Don't infer where it's misplaced. You love to see Modi posing in his [non]mediating state but can't see RG hvng a harmless pizza which he has paid himself

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  8. True the wedding was a vulgar display of wealth. But the positive aspect of this event was that money from the Ambani coffers filtered down to the common man in some form or other.
    Thosands were employed to make it a pompous and grand affair. They did not do it for free, but must have been paid bountifully.
    Considering their social standing and political clout along with the global recognition that the Ambanis now enjoy, perhaps it was a necessity to throw such a extravagant display to confirm their social standing

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  9. Perhaps a different take can exist here.

    The Ambani nuptials cost far less as a proportion of personal net worth than what some families spend on theirs. It was a private assortment of ceremonies, and barring the Italian trip where they were accompanied by some of their close A+++ listers, the events were held at properties owned by the family. Of some concern was the expenses of the wedding being written into the books of the business, which could probably affect the share price. But its proportion to the turnover is insignificant, so that will not matter to the hounds of the stock market even if it is absorbed.

    The publicity it garnered was through the unceasing efforts of the media channels, YouTubers and other internet influencers, for whom the intrusive reporting of such events are a way to go laughing to the bank. It is bemusing that many who watched the extravaganza or followed it unfolding should now go clucking their tongues, labelling it as decadence of the lowest rung. To judge every aspect of this mother-of-all-spectacles by pedestalling oneself to the jury's chair and relying on hearsay and natter, is unwanted. One, information is inflated unstoppably as whispers go from lip to ear. Two, it generates contorted narratives during propagation leading to dissidence in many, some of the kind being witnessed here.

    Drawing professional performers of the white skin, or any other, is at the personal behest of the hirers, decided by commercial Afford and Accept. The premise that Indians desire to be seen in the company of whites is arguably spurious and anachronistic by now. Kerry Packer, the much maligned founder of the World Series Cricket, made his opening speech which went like this, “Gentlemen, there is a bit of the whore in all of us, name your price”.
    Here the white performers named theirs.
    Likewise, coming to the invitees, who were all of the highest global and political stature - precious little will be attained by deriding their attendance. Weddings are the inevitable crucible where fun, festivity, free trade, and horse trade blend effortlessly; this occasion was the biggest of them all.

    If the influencers are making a buck from the relentless coverage of the Ambani marriage, those opposed to it are also getting a bang from their descriptive derision of the jamboree. All in all everybody benefits, as do the involved families.

    P.S.: One concurs that the absence of the Gandhis was a dignified approach taken by them. Additionally, the video of Rahul Gandhi dining at a local pizza parlour on the evening of the celebration is the right optics of contrast.

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  10. Sir everyone is entitled to his views so are you, some of us do publish or voice them. I feel you have been unduly harsh on an event which did receive more than its share of publicity, yes it was ostentatious so what, every Punjabi wedding in Delhi farm houses is one. It is a personal matter, and like someone else commented the money spent has been routed into the coffers of our own people, so who is the loser here? Keeping our personal and political biases aside, I think we should treat this matter as just another one of those events where someone went a little overboard, so what. He spent 5000 cr and will earn 50000 cr from that, we spend 15-20 lakhs on the wedding and derive personal happiness out of an event conducted to our satisfaction. That about sums it up. You may like to read my take on this, if you wish to, at https://senseinthenonsense.blogspot.com/2024/07/big-faaaaat-wedding.html

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  11. It seems you want the country to end up the way the erstwhile USSR ended up!

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  12. For a change Rahul Gandhi has made a very valid point.

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  13. Satire, condemnation, praise, all mean FA to people without sensibility, civility and taste.

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  14. Very true My father retired from IAS in 1990 and I always remember him refusing diwali gifts even sweets were refused. Once we asked him why he said these exact words if I accept the gift today how can I say no tomorrow.

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  15. This article certainly set the red herring dead centre... Really enjoyed the write up and the whip lashing of this vulgar extravaganza in the comments... Will history judge it as another notch towards a festering resentment by the poor who may not seem to have a voice but were articulate enough on 4th june 2024 to be heard collectively against autocracy, jumla-panti. Ambani's social insecurity evident in remnants of the colonial hangover, cannot be masked by tasteless profligacy. But it can certain fuel the fires of a revolution that seems to be on the anvil of we go on with Business As Usual without a agreed of soul-, searching that this Blog urges us to do! Look within!

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  16. Article in Poor taste, Ambani has wealth and he has earned in honestly. As IAS officer did you stop corruption under you. IAS cadre is most corrupt in Country.

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    1. His wealth is from consumption of his products by people . He has obligation to the people. Don't offend their sensibilities

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  17. Article is totally biased. It's not expected from an IAS person. How much wealth he has distributed to poor during his tenure? A fellow with zero knowledge of the Country, who without any authority signs an agreement with the enemy country, one who is demoralising country's defence is being projected like a hero. What a mess was there when his party was ruling, so many scams, duplicate currency printing and so on. Author needs introspection.

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  18. Brilliantly incisive and honest as usual Avay. Missed your usual humour; though I can understand that some situations make even humour disappear. Thank you for your continued bearing of the torch for those of us who feel likewise but cannot always articulate it as well as you do.

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  19. Rahul Gandhi's "Affirmative Action" is demonstration of moral uprightness and courage. As any one else with appreciation for this rectitude, this reader has apprehension about the survival of the Gandhis, political or otherwise. After all it is money and muscle power against morality and decency. We are watching the charade that is going in the U S of A, "The most powerful and oldest democracy" where a bunch oligarchs subvert or control the country

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  20. Like someone mentioned earlier, it is Mr.Ambani's money and he can spend it any way he likes. The wedding did provide employment to an army of people and am sure they were happy to be a part of this extravaganza. Similarly ,it must have improved the bottomlines of many a business who had the good fortune of being a part of this grand spectacle. Who he invites and who accepts the invitations is a matter of personal preference.

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  21. Agree with most comments by author
    However being a IAS officer of the Congress era, he has a soft corner for the Dynasty and trends towards idolisation of the current generation of the Nehru-Gandhi family.

    Brash crass exhibition of wealth in a country where malnutrition is rampant in children and torn clothes commonly worn by street urchins, is poor taste and exhibits insensitive and contemptuous attitude to the misfortune and poverty of the vast majority of people of India , 800 million of whom have to be provided free/subsidized foodgrains to survive and millions survive on few rupees paid under MNREGA Scheme and wait in long queues for basic medical aid

    I have read comments by few, some directly benefiting from the FAMILY largesse, who want to validate this atrocious spending of gross trivialities of life who validate these expenses as individual spending his own wealth, that many people were employed , that vendors made money , that PERFORMERS were paid , that private jet owners and pilots earned and so on and so forth.

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  22. # valson thampu too has played the game and played to win. when required to have a doctoral degree he obtained one in theology from an agricultural training institute run by his religious sect - notwithstanding that theology was not one of the disciplines offered to students at this particular vocational training establishment. rahulbaba could not be not aware that reliance played the license permit raj game, a travesty set up by the INC as a corner stone of their patronage, privilege business model, a travesty ring-fenced by a darbari higher babucracy. reliance worked this system, and the nehru gandhi immediate family with their select courtiers abetted the growth of reliance in no small measure. entrepreneurs need to negotiate, manage risk; with raisina hill underwriting the promoters in no small measure reliance could not but succeed exponentially. it would be difficult for rahulbaba and soniabehn to face a truth and reconciliation expiation of these sins. reliance certainly cannot be condemned as sinners. for an entrepreneur, a successful business entity to be a sinner, its actions need to be judged against three tests - has the business been harmful to the community, the environment, compromising the future; has the business been criminally selfish, grasping, greedy to the detriment of the market; has the business exploited its workers, suppliers, franchisees.

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  23. # reliance did not have the advantage of belonging to a select cabal. the special cabal that is the higher babucracy and this cabal would fail all three tests on every count. and being the ruling, governing class have put in place a catechism that reminds all lesser mortals that the heaven born are always and every time above the law. not belonging to privilege and entitlement, reliance networked. now through conspicuous consumption and wealth distribution a potlatch has been celebrated. as the anthropologist franz boas reported "We will dance when our laws command us to dance, we will feast when our hearts desire to feast. Do we ask the white man, 'Do as we do'? No, we do not. Why, then, will you ask us, 'Do as the white man does'? It is a strict law that bids us to dance. It is a strict law that bids us to distribute our property among our friends and neighbors. It is a good law. Let the white man observe his law; we shall observe ours. And now, if you are come to forbid us to dance, begone; if not, you will be welcome to us."

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    1. The certificate to clear Reliance from all murky matters in the harnessing of the system, is questionable. It acquits the group of all clandestine bargains entered into, yet the INC and the Babus allegedly involved then are held guilty of moral compromise. Reliance passes the three tests of social, economic and competitive fairness, but its facilitators, the Congress and the Babucracy of the times, fails all three! Adding to the irony, the surviving Gandhis - Rahulbhai and Soniabehn - are mockingly asked to offer reparations for those acts that aided and abetted Reliance to rise to the astronomical heights it has achieved, knowing that the individuals had no involvement in the matters then. The elite among the political and bureaucratic circles are criticised for having drawn a behavioural template of being above the law, yet Reliance and the Ambanis are treated with forgiveness, even understanding, in their continuous journey of networking with benefits with those in the realms of power.
      How does one get away with this dichotomy; perhaps from the sheer dazzle of the rhetoric. Look closer, and the content appears dubious, even vacuous, primarily expressing no more than disdain for the Gandhis and the Bureaucracy.
      One is left wondering why.

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  24. # asia's richest families": abu dhabi's al nahyan, estimated wealth, US$305 billion; followed by qatar's al thani, US$133 billion; arabia's al saud, US$112 billion; bharat's ambani, US$89.9 billion [investopedia, jan, 2024].

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  25. Let's talk numbers: How many jobs has Ambani created? How many jobs have you created? Rest is subjective.

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  26. There's ostentatious and ostentatious. A privilege of those who have.
    There's also crassness and crassness.
    Yes our "big, fat" weddings are frequently ostentatious and crass. And some out do the others.
    But do they ever actually lead to lasting good or more to a lasting laugh when all the guests are gone?
    The crux here though, is the late Mr. Parsheera's inarguable wisdom. It might bear being kept in mind in the roiling of the days to come.

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    1. One person who can be said to have truly imbibed the wisdom of the late Mr. C.D. Parsheera, even better than his protégé, is the actor Sanjay Dutt.
      It is reported that he turned up so well sozzled at the grand nuptials, that it was Mukesh Ambani who was compelled to say “No” to offering him a drink, and had to summon security to place him comfortably in the basement.
      Mr. Parsheera may have beamed from wherever he was at Dutt’s magnificent show of preparedness.

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  27. Whenever I read or hear something about the Ambanis, I remember an old picture of them and the caption. They are all looking up and the caption says " Bhagwan, kuch chahiye toh batana"!! I am not going to say anything about the merits and demerits of the very looooog wedding but what I can't understand is the PM attending it after publicly accusing the Ambanis of sending money in tempos to the Congress party! How does one look into the eyes of someone, whom you have called corrupt? Maybe the shamelessness is on both the sides?

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